Rebuttal

To address some of Valria’s questions about my last post….

“But but but, what about HDDG? I mean if “Aaron” was a poor replacement and you couldn’t commit to him with thoughts of HDDG on your mind at all times….

What if NG brags to HDDG about a date with you, If he is a younger version of HDDG he may not keep his mouth shut.

Is it worth risking HDDG to date NG? What if/when NG finds out about this blog will he feel like a consolation prize and then you will be without any DDG’s?

Just sayin………….”

Yes, all valid points….but…do I stop dating while I pine away for HDDG?  There’s something about him that is so intimidating to me….I can barely  say his name w/o blushing.  On the other hand, NG is very easy to talk to, joke around with, etc.  He’s handsome, funny, sexy, makes a mean coffee… LOL   I can see where it may be weird to date one, with the intention of possibly scoring a date with the other.  And what if they do talk about it?  But but but, NG is so cute!  Ugh.

Now, I’ve been given independent advice about this issue through private emails from faithful readers.   I’ve heard both sides of the argument.  I would like to open this up for a few more comments….what do you all think?

BTW-date with NG for Thursday night has been postponed b/c CoffeeGirl has the flu…. 😦

Big Clues #9 & #10

Wow, so I’m behind in my clues…. YIKES!

Here’s a couple to get the ball rolling again…. HDDG’s Dunkin Donuts is on the main street in my town…4 lanes, many businesses, lots of crosswalks….

And….There is no Home Depot in my town. 🙂

A Whole New Dynamic

So, I drink coffee now.  Well, that may not be entirely true…coffee purists would say I drink a ‘designer coffee beverage’.  A Caramel Iced Latte (complete with whipped cream!  YUM).

These last couple weeks I’ve been so busy with work (busier than I ever thought possible, but in a good way), and I think my personality is actually changing.   I’ve thought long and hard about it…It’s a combination of Pride (from working hard), Energy (from all the caffeine my body’s not used to), Determination (since I haven’t had good sex in a looong time), and Confidence (actually built from writing this blog….does that seem weird?).

So what does Pride, Energy, Determination and Confidence buy a smart, good-looking woman….why it gets her a date with NG!   (Who, for those who may not remember, is a very handsome, sexy, younger-than-HDDG guy.)  Score ONE for CoffeeGirl!

Big Clue #8

My State’s name starts with a different letter than my State’s nickname. LOL

Back in Full Force!

Hello FMD Nation!!!

It’s been quite a while since last post, I know!  CoffeeGirl has had a very busy couple of weeks at work.  Good news is….my career is advancing nicely!  So I’ll be able to afford more Dunkin’ Donuts trips!  Now here’s the interesting thing…last week I went for 3 days with no sleep (gotta meet deadlines, ya know?), and I started going in to DD to get coffee.  Remember, I don’t drink coffee?  WELL, now I do!  At first, the caffeine just sent me bouncing off walls…now I kinda like it.  I’m wondering if I’ve become addicted to it, or if maybe I just like the taste (always knew I liked the taste of coffee….ohhhh coffee ice cream…YUM!).  Anyway, my regular beverage has now been replaced with Iced Lattes.  I’m really getting used to the extra energy!!

Okay, so I owe you a clue (or two)….. I’ll get right on that.  Also in the next few days, I’ll post some of my stories from last week…it’s amazing what lack of sleep does to a person’s judgment!

Big Clue #7

HDDG’s Dunkin Donuts is in a city with a college/university.

The Reverse Latte Factor

If you knew me personally, you’d know that CoffeeGirl is pretty competent when it comes to money….spending, saving and investing. So that’s why I feel my crush on HDDG is really costing me a lot! Not just time spent away from work so I can frequent Dunkin Donuts, but also money that would normally be reserved for the market (so I could make my own bagel at home). I went from a once-a-month DD habit to a 5-times-a-week DD habit. What does this mean to my pocketbook??? Well, calculating David Bach fashion…

$4.41 per day x 5 days = $22.05 per week

$22.05 x 4 weeks = $88.20/month

$88.20 x 12 months…

I’ve increased my annual spending by $1058.40

Good news for Dunkin Donuts, bad news for me.  I hope you’re worth it, HDDG!

The Aaron Story

Okay, maybe I’m incapable of being happy…or maybe I know very well what will make me happy and I choose to pass on things that I don’t think will.

Either way, I broke it off with a guy who was sweet, kind, funny, smart, complimentary, respectful…. Why? I don’t really know, it just seemed like the right thing to do. Aaron & I got along great, had lots of fun and tons in common…but I just held back part of me. I think one of the biggest problems was that we started off fast, literally spent every day together for 5 days, and emailed when we were apart…then he left for an 8 day vacation in the woods, where he didn’t have any cell reception and we basically went for 8 days w/o talking. Now…. I do feel confident that if we had been together longer than 5 days we would have made it through, no problem. However, when he came back, there was an adjustment period, and to be honest, even though we started off strong the second time around, I still had reservations. We gave it a shot…and it didn’t work. Well, I didn’t work…if it were up to him we’d still be dating.

Sometimes, just b/c someone looks perfect on paper, it doesn’t mean they’re right for you…no matter how wonderful things are.

Let me clarify a couple things… in talking with a friend of mine, it was determined that Aaron didn’t hold my romantic interest b/c he wasn’t a challenge. This is true. And, he was too nice. This is also true. Finally, he didn’t know how to close the deal. True True True. Aaron & I did NOT sleep together, and not for lack of him wanting to…that was made clear to me. But I just didn’t feel right about it, now I’m glad I waited.

I think if he’d had more balls, been more aggressive (in the good way), and hadn’t been so god damned nice we would have worked. However, CoffeeGirl needs a man who will stand up to her sometimes. As it stands, he’s one of the sweetest guys ever, and I’m casting him back….

Feels Like Christmas Morning…

15 days later & HDDG has re-appeared! Needing a haircut, but as handsome as ever, My True Lust is back at work. After a stressful few weeks (did I mention I dumped Aaron? More later), I had begun to think that maybe I didn’t feel as strongly for HDDG as I once thought. But seeing him again today made my heart skip and my stomach flip. I suddenly couldn’t believe I had made it through two weeks without him. I just wanted to talk to him…ask him where he’d been, how it was, if he’d had fun…I wanted to know what was going on with him. I suddenly felt an extremely overwhelming need to be a part of his life. I patiently waited in line, and when my turn was up, Bingo! I stood in front of him…my knees threatening to give way under me. I flashed him my oft-rehearsed, perfect this-is-a-warm-friendly-smile-but-there-could-be-something-more-to-it…teeth and all. He instantly smiled right back and I leaned in slightly across the counter. He instinctively learned in toward me as well, still grinning. I gave him my order with specific directives…he smiled broadly at me and repeated my order..I nodded in a flirtatous fashion. As he walked away to get my drink, he looked back at me and smiled again. I was on cloud nine!!! I watched while he waited to pour my drink, and he twirled the plastic Dunkin Donuts cup on the palm of his hand! He is so confident and cool!!! Wow! He came back with my drink, put it on the counter in front of me, leaned in and repeated my order again..almost in a whisper. I reached for the cup and his hand was still on it, so I glanced up at him, he was beaming. At this point, I think I blushed. I feel like if we had been the only people in the room he would have kissed me. I know that sounds stupid, and you’re saying it’s just a figment of my imagination…just wishful thinking… However, CoffeeGirl has had many years experience with men and knows that look when she sees it! I think we really made a connection today.

Before I left, I got a good look at his name tag and it reflects a promotion! I almost said something to him about it, but stopped myself. Oh, and I’ve redetermined how old I think he is…originally I said he could be anywhere between 19-29…now I’d say with some certainty he’s probably 25-27. Perfect age for me…I like them a little young!

Big Clue #6

HDDG’s Dunkin Donuts is within 30 miles of the ocean. Closing in….