Question for Badass

Billy Badass gave me license to ask him anything after answering a personal question he had for me. So, this is it…

“Representing strong, assertive, confident guys everywhere…what features turn you on in a woman, both physical and emotional? And, what about a woman usually catches your interest first?”

(I’ll be waiting on the edge of my seat)

Read Billy’s Answer

Billy Badass, That Warrants a Post!

Billy, you’re the man. I’ll bet you hear that all the time, don’t you, Stud?

Billy said;

“HDDG represents your dream man, after going through a painful process of dating guys who can’t seem to get the job done.

I would bet he is strong, silent, assertive, friendly, etc. And I bet you think he would take control and give you… uh… a damn good bangin, I guess you could say.

All the while I wonder what your “boyfriend” is like. I would bet he is probably mildly jealous, a little too clingy, and maybe even too nice. And thats why this blog still exists, although in anonymity.”

Now that I’m thinking about it…Billy is right.  This whole thing boils down to just sex (nothing wrong with that, right?).  I mean, why pine over someone you don’t know??? Sexual attration, plain and simple.

Yes, HDDG is  “strong, silent, assertive, friendly”, and in my mind I do imagine he could “take control and give me a damn good bangin!”  

As for Aaron, my so-called boyfriend (we don’t have an understanding yet…),  he is the type of man I have always felt is perfect for me… Smart, funny, sensitive, easy-going, “mildly jealous, a little too clingy, and maybe even too nice”.  He is profuse in his praise for me, and is always the perfect gentleman.  Is that why I don’t feel quite right about him??? Am I looking for something else, something I’m not supposed to want?  Is it possible that deep down I really do want the ‘bad boy’? Probably.  I’ve reached a point in my life where I finally realize I don’t need a man to take care of me.  I’m educated, self-supporting and independent.  Maybe I should stop looking for perfect, and start looking for satisfying.

And Billy, just to clarify…I’ve had really good sex (really, really good sex).  But not since college.  Why are adept men so hard to find?

10 Days and No HDDG

So it’s been 10 days since I last saw HDDG.  I’m actually considering calling DD and asking for him…they’ll either say “so-and-so doesn’t work here anymore”… or… “so-and-so isn’t in today”. 

I mean, I really don’t want to slip into the seductive life of stalking, but a girl’s gotta know!!! Maybe NG was hired as his replacement.  Maybe he was transferred to another Dunkin Donuts (do they do that?).  Maybe he was in an accident. Maybe he died!  Wow, I know, I know, I need to get a grip.  But seriously….what DD employee gets 10 days for vacation???? I’m really losing it.

I just realized…now my blog really is aptly named…

Neglecting My Blog

I haven’t had much to say these last couple of days. I must admit that I’m really kinda drained from dealing with my friend and her ‘cyber-affair’ problem. She has called me everyday to talk for hours. I now know that I’m the only person she has confided in, and she feels a relief having someone to talk to.

Apparently, it’s worse than she originally lead me to believe. She has a secret cell phone and talks to him for hours everyday. And they have phone-sex. She said that the cell bill goes to her work address so her husband won’t know about the extra phone. She regularly speaks to his friends, brother and mother on the phone. They’ve been making plans to live together, maybe even in another state. They use the “L” word, and have discussed marriage and children.

I don’t know what to tell her. I’m so sad hearing about all of this b/c I’m also friends with her husband (FYI: I didn’t know he drank, no one knows). She wants me to tell her it’s okay , and that she’s making the right decision…but I can’t. I don’t know what to tell her. I think the only good thing here is that they haven’t met. However, they are planning to very soon.

This whole thing makes my stupid crush on HDDG seem soooo silly and innocent. She has a real big problem…

The Married Woman Affair

This afternoon, I spent 3 hours on the phone with one of my good friends. I’ve known her since 2002 and we’ve become very close. She had to confess something to me, and wanted my advice….I’ve been thinking about her story and thought I’d share it here (on my anonymous blog).

(We’ll call her Beth)

Beth is 31 and has been married for 4 years. She loves her husband very much but feels that the spark & romance is gone. So Beth told me that about a month ago, she met a guy online and they’ve been emailing ever since. They haven’t met in person, although she says she wants that more than anything. She is trying to justify her decision to do so. Okay, here is the kicker…he is 21. What I want to know is what a 31 y.o. woman has in common with a 21 y.o. guy???? However, she claims to be in love with him! She said they talk during the day while her husband is at work, and she can’t stop thinking about him. He apparently wants them to be together (officially…permanently…), so he’s pushing for her to leave her husband. Beth doesn’t know what to do…and I didn’t know what to tell her. It seems like a shame to throw away a marriage on a guy you haven’t met yet, but she is convinced he’s her soulmate (and I do believe in soulmates…maybe she’s right). She told me she’s scared of it working out with the younger guy, and at the same time, is scared of it not working out. As a single woman, I can’t relate to her situation.

Two more important details…her husband drinks and refuses to get help… and there aren’t any children in the marriage yet. She feels like now is the time to make the move…I’m so nervous to see her do that!!!

I told her I’d call her back tonight after her husband’s asleep. What do I tell her??? Has anyone else been in this position???

Animal Magnetism

Aaron came home on Wednesday night.  We seem to be having no problem settling back into our compatible, flirtatious relationship.   There’s just something about ‘us’ that is very right, although I’m still trying to be cautious.  This is a new relationship and I don’t want it to fizzle-out too fast.

HDDG has been gone this week (I’m hoping it’s just a vacation!).  God, if he quit, I’d have no way of finding him again…maybe a good thing, huh? However, New Guy has been extremely attentive to me this past week.  He’s so cute and has a sexy accent.  (Wow, is that giving away too much???)  Not to mention the attention I seem to be getting, all-of-a-sudden, from men everywhere… It’s a phenomenon that’s not entirely foreign to me…

When I was in college, I went through a period of about 8 months where guys were soooo attracted to me.  I mean, I am attractive and have always turned heads, but this was ridiculous!  I couldn’t go anywhere without guys just falling all over me.  It was great!  It became a running joke with my roommate. I would come home at night and she’d ask how many guys had hit on me or asked me out that day.  My answer was always at least 2.  Now, to make matters worse, I was attending a college that had only about 10% women.  It was pure animal magnetism, and I don’t know what caused it.  That was several years ago, and now I’m experiencing it again.  Even men in my office building, that I see every day are starting to hit on me.  Maybe someone out there in reader-world has a theory about this??? (You know who you are…lol)

I feel a little overwhelmed with all the attention (and I know it won’t last forever).  But fear-not, readers, for I still have my sights set on HDDG!

Oh, and I bought a new-and-improved cleavage shirt.  A little gift from me to HDDG when he returns to work…

Big Clue #5

HDDG’s Dunkin’ Donuts is NOT open 24 hours. Wow, that’s a big clue!

What’s For Dinner?

Dr. Pepper wants to know what my kitchen looks like….while not as cozy as my bedroom, it is my favorite room…

My kitchen consists of four, cabinet covered walls, broken up by the occasional window overlooking either my garden or the side patio. A large center island, outfitted with stools for lazy dinners and Sunday mornings is the focal point of the room. Extra-tall cabinets go all the way up the 9 foot walls and are a simple shaker design in a pale birch wood, many of them have glass doors to display my colorful collection of Fiestaware dishes. At the ceiling, the cabinets are finished with a dark mahogany-colored crown molding to provide contrast. One wall features a built-in stainless fridge, a tall bookshelf for all my cookbooks, and a double wall oven. The two adjacent walls are all storage; cabinets galore, with pull out shelves, spice racks, bottle racks and glass-front drawers filled with decorative seaglass. The fourth wall houses my extra-deep, single basin sink with a tall stainless faucet. Outside the above-sink window, hangs a box filled with herbs- mostly basil. A dishwasher, pull-out trash drawer and wicker baskets for onions and potatoes complete the final wall.

The center island is all mahogany cabinets, to match the crown molding. It has a gas cooktop with six burners, for easy preparation of larger meals and a special cabinet for my oft-used Kitchen Aid mixer. On one end of the island is a small vegetable sink and the other end, a built in wine cooler. The granite counters are called “Blue Pearl” and they tie in to the seaside theme in my house. Above the island hangs a contemporary, frosted glass chandelier.

My kitchen is the result of careful planning and consideration on my part. The room is sleek, shiny and modern with a slight rustic feel. Something is always cooking, and my home is filled with the exotic scents of spices, chocolate and fruits. I’m happiest when I’m here…

Okay, Doc. What have you learned about me?

 

Lazy Days

I’ve had a couple of really laid-back days (a real treat for me). I decided to go shopping for my bedroom. YUP, my bedroom. Every couple of years, I like to replace all the bedding and start anew. So I splurged and got a new featherbed, down comforter, comforter cover, sheets and pillows. Wow, what a difference it makes. Everything is so soft and full and smells wonderful. I finally let myself buy the 1200 thread-count sheets I’ve been drooling over for months.

I actually got an email from a guy who wants to know what CG’s bedroom looks like. At first, I was shocked and horrified…then I thought, “what’s the big deal? He doesn’t know me from Eve, and it’s not really that perverted of a request”. So here goes nothin’.

My bedroom is a loft-style that overlooks the dining room. It has hardwood floors, fresh white beadboard on the walls and a pale blue ceiling. It is clean, full of light and clutter-free. My queen size bed is the Pottery Barn Thomas Bed in white. The new sheets/comforter are done in simple, block stripes of pale blue, light green and white.   A sand colored rug runs beneath the bed and natural wicker baskets flank the underbed and hide away my extra linens.  I have two white, distressed dressers across the room from the bed and two matching nightstands on either side of the bed.  The extra nightstand is home to a glass bowl filled with seashells I’ve collected on the beach, and my nightstand is kept clear for my laptop at night.  The floor-to-ceiling windows are covered with sheer, white curtains that drift softly about when the breeze comes through.   On my shorter, mirrored dresser, I have a beautiful, 24 inch Murano Glass vase in several shades of blues, that mimics ocean waves.  The room is cozy and comfy, with a slight scent of lavender.   I do not keep a clock in the bedroom….

So there you have it…CoffeeGirl’s chambers.  You may ask ‘why’ I’ve decided to revamp the ole bedroom…is it possible that I’m anticipating a gentleman caller….maybe…

One Fell Swoop

Thanks to StartingToday for making an educated guess at my location based on some info I slipped. She was right and now only 6 states remain here at FMD (with a total of 1,919 DD. Much better than the 5,200 we started with…).  I had intended to eliminate an entire state as my clue this Friday…maybe I still will…